WHY DO PARENTS TELL THEIR KIDS THAT B’S AREN’T GOOD ENOUGH B’S ARE FUCKING GREAT SO ARE C’S DON’T YELL AT YOUR KID WHEN THEY DON’T GET AN A IN SOME CLASS AND DO NOT TELL THEM THAT THEY CAN DO BETTER WHEN THEY’RE OBVIOUSLY TRYING THEY’RE HARDEST
I honestly cannot stress how important this is. My older brother was good at school. Everything he did he got an A and I was expected to be the same but I wasn’t. I tried really hard but I was slower than most kids and things were harder for me to understand. I got by for a while but when classes got too hard for me I was yelled at and punished just for getting a c in something I tried really hard to do.
When I got into high school I was forced to take honors English. I passed by the skin of my teeth and cannot tell you how many times I got yelled at even though I tried to keep my work up. I was even humiliated by my teacher. And the following year I managed to get an A in my English honors class and was so thrilled. But you know what happened? Instead of focusing on that improvement. My mother screamed at me for getting a C in biology.
I was so upset I just walked out of the house. I gave up. Nothing I did was ever good enough so why should I bother trying? Granted I still gave effort in class to pass but I never did anything to make anything better because all anyone saw was the bad an not the good.